Though lying is a very common child behavioral issue, it is one that is very often misunderstood by parents. We parents often make two mistakes when it comes to dealing with lying. First of all, we treat lying as if it were the end of the world and some kind of horrible crime. Second, we do not understand the reasons why kids tell lies.
It may be true that our ADHD children are more prone to lying than most youngsters are. The reason for this is tied to the fundamental and most frequent reason why kids lie in the first place. Most lies are attempts—sometimes primitive and sometimes more sophisticated—to cover up things that, unfortunately, our ADHD kids are very good at: mistakes, misbehavior, disorganization, forgetfulness and you name it!
Thomas Phelan will discuss ways of approaching lying in a calm but
still assertive manner. What do you do right at the time you think a
child is lying? How do you try to get at the truth? What do you do
if you find out later that what you were told is not the case? If
you're the parent of an ADHD child, it is extremely important that
you have routines for preventing as well as managing this problem.
registered clinical psychologist, Thomas W. Phelan, Ph.D. has worked
with children, adults and families for over 30 years. He is a member
of the American Psychological Association and the Illinois
Dr. Phelan is the author of numerous books, DVDs and audios. In addition to writing and producing, Dr. Phelan maintains an active schedule of international lectures, and he is a frequent guest on radio and television. His articles appear in numerous regional and national publications.
Dr. Phelan received his Doctorate from Loyola University, Chicago, in 1970 after completing his internship at the Loyola Child Guidance Center. He worked at the DuPage County Mental Health Center until 1972 and then entered private practice. Dr. Phelan has also served on the boards of directors for both ADDA and CHADD, two national organizations for the parents of children with ADD. He was inducted into the CHADD Hall of Fame in 1997.